Change the perspective with childcare

Sometimes in life more simple changes can make the biggest difference. If you are a parent care childcare for one of these simple changes can be like you you sentence concerns of custody of the child. Many fights for custody of the child are extended by parents insisting that their rights have been violated by their co-parent.

A simple piece of advice that I'd like to give all parents to deal with custody is to exchange the term "my rights" for "best interest of our children." This is the approach of the courts generally taken and it is amazing how similar your rights are the best interest of your child. All parents are more receptive to protect their children than they are, for the protection of their rights of co-parents. So your concerns may be better received if you can eliminate them in a way that recalls what is best for your baby.

A common example is when changes of custody when there isn't a housing to 50%. Many parents complain the current child custody agreement is unfair because they have only 25% of the housing. This same exact idea can be expressed with emphasis on the best interests of the child. Is accepted by the courts that a child is better served by having relationships with both parents. So, changing the concern to address the present agreement is to deprive the child the opportunity to build a maintain a relationship with both parents.

If you and your co-parent may adopt this approach to the custody of the child who may be able to communicate your concerns in a way that is more likely to be appreciated by your co-parent. This cannot be a magic wand that solves your problems of custody, but it will force you to articulate your concerns in a way that can lead to less struggles and conversations more productive.

This article was meant only to provide information and is not intended as legal advice. If you have any queries about your particular case you should make an appointment to speak with the options of a lawyer. I'd love to hear what other family law issues are important. Please e-mail me questions@dysartlawfirm.com questions and I will try to address them in future articles.

Keith Dysart
Lawyer for family law and family law mediator in Santa Cruz, California
http://www.dysartlawfirm.com

Keith Dysart
Santa Cruz Family Law Attorney and broker
http://www.dysartlawfirm.com